Entanglements, whether romantic or not, are intricate, unproductive, and challenge our integrity and inner authority. We can become entangled with anyone.
Entanglements aren’t reserved for the bad guys. They are mine. They are yours.
The question isn't whether we have entanglements, the question is whether we want to stay there. If that's you, this blog post isn't for you.
For the others who are exhausted, feeling stuck in a web of never-ending drama and confusion, and desperately trying to get free, pull up a chair. Let's talk.
As someone who has made it to the other side of some entanglements, I want to start by saying that it's hard work to break off from the well worn path that gets us to the place where we have lost ourselves. It's difficult work like gardening though, not difficult like rocket science.
In answer to the question in that brilliant echo chamber of your mind, yes, you are still in there. You might be lost, but you can be found!
Your power, creativity, intelligence and wisdom are simply being used in ways that aren't creating life. Rather, they are being used to create confusion and to prop up someone else's version of reality.
For example, how do you answer the question, "what do I like about myself? " If your first inclination is to try and reframe the question, feel it is sacreligious to like yourself, or otherwise avoid the answer, then you need to roll up your sleeves, put your hair in a ponytail, put your running shoes on and get going! Depending on how tightly caught you are in the entangelement however, it will take some time to get momentum in your freedom run.
Let's thread the needle by moving from definition, concept and metaphor to pragmatism:
If you are married to a damaging or dangerous person, you are entangled.
If you avoid your parent, you are entangled.
If you have a bullying child, you are entangled.
If you have a friend who you don't like but you can't seem to say no to, you are entangled.
If you boycott others because they believe differently than you, you are entangled.
If you are in a church where you feel confused or worse, silenced, you are entangled.
Confidently embrace the moment as you read this, fully aware that your thoughts and feelings are valid, even if kept private. Take charge of your life by daring to step outside your comfort zone. Make a bold move, no matter how small it may seem. Embrace your individuality by wearing your favorite color, regardless of others' opinions. Revisit that beloved song from your youth and relish in the nostalgia of simply being yourself.
It's crucial to take action, no matter how small or simple it may seem. Starting with something basic is not just good, it's excellent! Begin with simplicity, start with something small, but most importantly, just get started!
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